As I dried my hair, my brain kicked into gear. (Scary!) I was thinking about some comments I’ve heard from guys here and there regarding “Why do pretty girls cry?”. Of course, I had to question them to reveal their thoughts on the subject. I asked them a simple question: “Do you think women who are pretty don’t like other pretty women?” Hmmm, I got a lot of responses right away, seemingly without thinking. The most popular response was… “NO!!” I know so many women who are beautiful and the last thing they would think of themselves is exactly that. They cannot see what we see in them at all. They think that all the other women in the world have more to offer.
My next question was, “Do you think women constantly compare themselves to other women?” This question took them no time at all to answer. “Yes and no. They think that we (men) are comparing them to other women. And that’s what makes them all weird.” Also, “They think we want them in our minds or wonder what they would look like naked. They compare themselves to other women, yes, but in one more way to improve for us. My girlfriend compares herself to women who doesn’t even come close to her.” on any scale and still finds reasons to break down”.
Hmmm, it seems like I’m saying that sometimes, but it’s because women are so generalized. If a woman is one way with a guy, he thinks all women are like that. When women generalize men, they call us male bashers or feminists. What do we call kids who generalize to us from their past experiences?
So what about the fact that pretty girls don’t really see themselves as pretty girls? Is it something from your past? (Seems like the end result of everything)
I myself remember a guy who asked me exactly that question. “Why do all the pretty girls think they’re ugly?” I shrugged. I really had no answer. I never got to that level, to be pretty that is.
In all the research I’ve been doing on this subject, I’ll tell you this, ‘beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’, nothing more, nothing less. If we look in the mirror and see no beauty, that is only in our mind. Neither in the mind of our partners nor in the mind of a stranger. We are constantly supported by our spouses and are constantly wary of their comments. Why? When are we going to start seeing ourselves as a beautiful being? A UNIQUE BEING. A single being.
Ladies, when you come across someone who you feel is way above you, for whatever reason, shoes, hair, dress, body or just your smile, think about this; she is also looking at you and seeing something in you that she lacks and that she would love to have.
In addition, it is part of us, it is integrated in us and it is born with it in our brain to compare.
Some will look for weaknesses or flaws in others just to make themselves feel good. That is a negative comparison. It’s not wrong to want to be a better person. We just have to be very careful not to take it to an extreme that blinds others to our thoughts and intentions.
Men automatically tend to call us jealous when we reveal our thoughts, if another woman is involved. Another mystery in my mind; Jeesh, we’re not always that worried, that’s fine. So get off your ego trip guys. Sometimes we are really curious as to why we see and feel the vibrations we receive from you. Also as you read before, maybe, we care and want to improve. Maybe men should try that sometime. Then you will really see where we come from.
Another thing I have noticed is that men are very good at making us believe that we are doing what they say. Why is that? Is it to win an argument and feel totally in control of our thoughts or is it that they themselves feel vulnerable at times and less than perfect for us? Men have told me that they don’t look at other men and want to be like them. Well duh! Wouldn’t that make them women? Why is everyone trying so hard to make excuses for the genres? Why can’t we just accept and appreciate each other for our differences? Why do we have to be so damn equal in everything?
Females are soft, sensual, sensitive, emotional, passionate and intelligent creatures. This is who we are, and we’re tired of apologizing for how we were born. We work overtime trying to understand our male counterparts. We are what makes them work. They are what make us work. We want nothing more than to be your everything. What’s wrong with that? Men are strong, protective, sexual and sensitive beings.
Men and women together make a very beautiful song.
These are just my thoughts, as you all know, so take them with a grain of salt. Has society totally confused what real people are, to the point where some don’t even know they’re pretty? That is a sad thought. Some may think that I have nothing good to say. Well, I actually have a lot of good things to say. I wish life was a perfect world. It’s not even closed. My thoughts tend to deal with the real world and it’s not so good for some. One cannot go up until one has completely come down.
We are all beautiful in some way. People think a lot about outward physical appearance and wish they could meet the person who first started that negative seed. When did things get so out of proportion?
There are too many worries and too many unhappy women out there. If I can at least help a woman see how pretty she is, then my course is set. Ladies, we are all a gift, one that our loved ones truly appreciate. Never let that slip. Remember, you choose your thoughts. You are the pretty girl that your man wants, desires and with whom he will spend the rest of his life. It is who we are that makes us the perfect woman. Not only how we see ourselves, because we are not always going to look the same. Everyone ages and everyone changes their outward appearance. What remains the same, is what we are inside. Our REAL person is what it’s all about. I’ll end with this thought:
ONE ALWAYS THINKS OTHERS ARE HAPPIER!