Generosity is about giving freely and out of love. Sometimes we are abused for this trait, but the important thing is that we treat others with respect and kindness. This is all that matters!
However, if there is one thing I would like to change in my life, it is my excess of generosity. My generosity is not limited to just my family, but also extends to other people who need my help. I am very sensitive. People don’t have to tell me their problems, I can feel them immediately. There and then, I will offer my help without being asked.
Give because you want to give, not because you expect others to change their behavior. I always support my sister even though she is ungrateful to me. I want to help her be a better person, but I end up frustrated because she doesn’t know how to appreciate the people who are always there for her no matter what happens to her: her family. The problem with being too generous with money is that others can become too dependent on you.
Most of the time, I wonder, what’s the point of holding her up if she can’t stand on her own two feet? She’s just becoming a parasite instead of becoming a productive person who has self-respect. I want her to have a good life, but she’s not helping herself to become one. Sometimes I’m really sick of all her complaining about her life, especially when it comes to money matters, doing nothing to achieve what her heart desires. She just wants to ask her family for financial help.
Too much support from his family affects his self-sufficiency, which is a problem. Not only does she suffer financially if I stop helping her, but she is also denied her full potential.
While giving can feel good, it can also create discomfort if we are repeatedly on the edge of giving. Being too generous is not good, especially when we are inclined to give everything we are capable of giving. We don’t have to please others by putting their needs first and neglecting our own. We should not be afraid if we let others down sometimes.
We have to think of ourselves first. This not only applies to family members but also to friends. When we are in the habit of bailing our friends out of shame, at a certain point it becomes unbearable and unfair. Money is not the only problem; It’s your unappreciated kindness. So why prolong the agony? Explain to him that you appreciate his friendship, but you just can’t keep it up anymore.
Being overly generous can also mean freely giving of your time, skills, and resources. A good dose of volunteering is good for everyone. If you’re retired and really enjoying it, there’s nothing wrong with that. But for a single mom like me, it’s too unfair!