If you’re nice, you’ll finish last, or so the old saying goes. This is especially true when it comes to meeting new women. Have you ever noticed how being nice and polite on a date almost never leads to a second date any time soon?
There’s a reason nice guys finish last in the dating game. First of all, no matter what your mother taught you, women don’t like guys who follow the rules to the letter. Sure, it’s probably nice to have a gentleman hold the doors and pull out the chairs, but let’s face it, it’s boring for them. For many women, nothing is worse than a guy who does nothing but flatter her eyes, her lips, her dress, her hair…
Remember, if you bore a woman, you are basically killing any chance that she will develop any interest or attraction to you, and you are ruining your chances of getting her number. Then what do you do?
Simple: be the opposite of boring. Women love men who are confident, funny and playfully arrogant at the same time. It’s easy to find men who are one or the other, but finding all three qualities in a guy is rare. Men who have these qualities are what women call “catch”.
Guys who are confident, but lack a sense of humor, are very nice to be around, but women feel like they are “missing something.” They are not as interesting as they might otherwise have been.
Men who are funny, but not confident enough to be arrogant, can come across as just plain silly. At worst, they pose as cheap, not good.
And men who are just conceited and nothing else are jerks! No woman in her right mind would want to be with someone who talks about himself in a painfully unfunny way.
But when you’re confident enough to be cocky and funny, you get a winning combination. You can talk about yourself in a way that makes them laugh, which is instantly very interesting and engaging. Women see right away that you have things in order and that they would really love to have you to themselves.
Of course, it wouldn’t be a good idea to try to take things to the next level right away. Keep her interested in you for a few minutes, then ask her for her number and her email. Then go. If you left on a really high note, then believe me: she will be the first to contact you.