Texting girls is an art. Many men who receive a girl phone number for the first time will not know what to do, how to start a conversation, call or send a text message. When this happens, the guy tends to accept the text messages as it is easier, and this is where it fails. When the girl does not respond, you begin to consider the possibilities, did you not like her appearance or another reason? However, it’s often the little details that matter the most, like the text message.
What are the reasons for texting anyway?
1. Men are trying to initiate some kind of connection between themselves and a girl.
2. Men try to stay in touch with their girl when they are out and about.
3. Men use text messages as a method to improve a relationship, making flirting more comfortable.
Before we start talking about messaging, let’s first review some mistakes men make when texting girls that can seriously affect a relationship.
1. Send a useless message that doesn’t make sense. For example, “How are you doing?” or “What’s up?”, these are very generic messages that you probably get every day from other guys who are trying to flirt. What makes your text stand out?
2. Avoid texting every hour, doing this will prevent the girl from waiting for you to send a message, as she will be expecting another message shortly. If your actions are predictable, then you lose the intrigue within the actions you take.
3. The last serious mistake often made is trying to carry on a conversation using text messages instead of talking. The messages were not intended as a way to get to know each other, nor are they ideal.
Every time you text your girl, you need to send her something that intrigues her. Making it fun and flirty will help keep her interested. However, always remember to be moderate, you don’t want to give away so much that you lose your intriguing appeal with her.
Keep in mind that a woman wants a man whom she can grow to love and who likes to be around. If the first impression was a boring text message, which you even forgot to reply to, then you need to change things.
1. Your text message must be valuable. You should create interesting messages, those that the girl should not respond to, but that she still wants. You may ask, how do I do that? Try something like, “I’m at work and I thought of you out of nowhere, so I wanted to say hi.” This creates the desire for her to respond to you because you are thinking about her, even while you are working. You’ve probably been thinking about her all day, but you don’t want her to know. You want me to believe that you haven’t been thinking about her at all.
2. Keep your messages short. If your messages are long, it once again becomes predictable. You want your messages to be like a movie trailer, short and concise. This generates interest and impatience.
3. Have you ever been waiting for a response from a girl, maybe for a few hours? The reality is that probably many other men did. Why? Your messages are likely to be predictable if you normally reply within minutes. You want your answers to be like a roller coaster, some get short, some get long. Instead of responding immediately, try waiting half an hour. Other times, try waiting an hour or two, or a whole day, this leaves you wondering.
Again, remember that you don’t want to answer every question a girl asks you, you want to be flirty and unpredictable. Save the sweetest parts of your conversations for when you are face to face.